Rub Some Dirt on It!


As boys, males are sometimes taught that expressing emotions associated with vulnerability is not a masculine trait.  Well meaning messages like, "Rub some dirt on it and keep going," may keep a boy in little league from crying during a game; but messages to stuff feelings can linger and keep men from fully expressing themselves as they age.  This is analogous to outdated software running on a buggy old computer.  The inability to express emotions in an honest way and be vulnerable with other men may contribute to the high number of men who are depressed.  Depression in men can be deadly.  Suicide rates among some subgroups of men are alarming and excessive.  Using the computer program analogy, men can choose to install new software that will allow them to express emotions in healthy ways through counseling, support groups, and authentic relationships with other guys.